Well, you might find it easier than being understood.
How so?
By barely saying anything, continue showing how mad or disappointed you are. Let your object of wrath read between the lines–interpret the unecessary banging of doors and clanging of the dishes you just washed.
Yes, let them read through all those things you never cared to say.
But, this is a good recipe for even more misunderstanding.
It might be challenging to bring up on the table what irritated or insulted you, but it sure is the shortest way to avert any uncessary misinterpretation and possible issue escalation. I’ve learned this XYZ pattern in communicating your feelings effectively and you might find it helpful too:
I felt X because you did Y. I wish you did Z instead.
While trying to remember the book which I’ve read it from (and I can’t remember anymore), I tried to look for resources online. And it seemed that the XYZ pattern takes different forms!
You might find these further readings helpful (and you can find more like these online):
- The XYZ Formula – Drs Les and Leslie Parrott
- The XYZ Formula to Improve Emotional Intelligence During Conflict
- Assertive Communication (downloadable PDF file; for the XYZ pattern, go to Page 3)
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