jessa

Everyday Stories, Lived

Relationships

  • Evening walks

    There’s something about walking under street lights and on breezy evenings when most people are traveling home or eating out with families and friends. I can’t help but feel how the busyness is different in that it is more relaxed than the usual grind in the mornings. And walking outside with a friend or a… Read more


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  • Free-flowing conversations

    There’s something about having conversations with less restraint, knowing that whatever you share with the other isn’t recorded or documented, just a natural conversation with another human being. And in free-flowing conversations, there’s no pressure to keep it upbeat. Instead, silence is welcome until another idea grows and engages everyone in the conversation. Read more


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  • Marriage is a journey

    A well-meaning friend asked us a lot of times why my fiancé and I decided to marry. He said that getting married takes a lot of work and adjustments as we get to know each other. So, to not marry is a good excuse to just walk away if the relationship hits a rock or a dip.… Read more


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  • Idiosyncrasies

    The more we get to know a person, the more we learn about their idiosyncrasies. From the New Oxford American Dictionary: id·i·o·syn·cra·sy | ˌidēəˈsiNGkrəsē | noun (plural idiosyncrasies) (usually idiosyncrasies) a mode of behavior or way of thought peculiar to an individual: one of his little idiosyncrasies was always preferring to be in the car first.  And just because we want the people we deeply care about to act a certain way, we often find their quirks… Read more


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  • The online people

    We used to meet people face to face. So scheduling a meeting with them is location and time-bound. But now, we can talk to people from different places anytime, all day long, without leaving where we are. While I try to remember what it feels like to talk to people face to face, here’s the… Read more


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  • Adjust and let go

    Some things are beyond your control, no matter how you want to orchestrate them the way you want them to be. And in these moments, the next best thing you can do is to adjust your point of view and let go of your frustration. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have to feel anything.… Read more


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  • Going home with a hand to hold

    The comfort of being held reminds me of what it feels like to be a child growing up in a loving family. And so growing up and living away from family feels lonely. Yet, there are moments when I strongly yearn for a touch, an embrace, and some warmth. Just having a hand to hold… Read more


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