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Everyday Stories, Lived

Relationships

  • The little sparks before the fire

    If you let the little sparks of annoyance vex you, you can feel how your nose starts to burn. And then your heartbeat picks up its pace. You start to breathe in and out heavily as if the surge of your emotions cannot be contained. Now, you are in a moment of choice: add wood… Read more

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  • Hard words break no bones

    Even when you scream the most vile thing you can imagine, those words would only harden someone’s heart against you. But to speak kindly breaks bones. Done right, kind words bring you favor. It’s something I learned from: By forbearance a ruler may be persuaded,And a soft tongue breaks the bone.Proverbs 25:15 (NASB1995) Read more

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  • Letting go of an argument

    What good does winning an argument make while somebody else becomes a laughingstock? Winning might make you feel good and deceive you into thinking that putting the other in a bad light makes you better. But no. Only fools would rejoice with you while the rest detests you for doing so. While letting go of… Read more

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  • Cheese hotdogs

    When we were out for a grocery run, I was surprised to see my husband take out a pack of cheese hotdogs from the frozen goods section. Why? Because he doesn’t particularly want them like I do. And seeing him grabbing a pack was confusing because you should expect him to get the regular kind,… Read more

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  • How to win an argument with a fool

    You may think that you can change the mind of a fool. But you are only fooling yourself. Why? Because a fool only wants to express his opinion and will not make the effort to understand. He is always in the right. A fool takes no pleasure in understanding,but only in expressing his opinion.Proverbs 18:2 ESV So, if you know the person taunting you is a… Read more

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  • The science behind why we synchronize with people

    A 2019 study on how strangers, friends, and lovers show different physiological synchrony in different emotional states highlighted several key findings (as quoted from the journal article): Read more

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  • Too absorbed by our storylines

    When all we hear is the sound of our voices in our heads, we may find it challenging to relate with others, especially when we are too absorbed by our storylines to bother about other people. Often, the thoughts in our heads get so overwhelming that we can’t go past ourselves and see others, connect… Read more

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