jessa

Reflections on becoming

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This is a collection of stories and daily musings.

  • Gender expectations

    Why are men’s emotional crises viewed as responses to external pressure while women’s are attributed to inherent emotional weakness? I never really understood society’s expectations towards women until I experienced the pressure to conform to the idea that women should never express intense negative emotions to avoid being labeled as “hysterical,” “dramatic,” and “unstable.” Speaking Read more


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  • A leader without dreams and visions

    If a man cannot communicate his dreams and visions for this lifetime and the next generation (and the next), he probably has nothing to begin with. And that is a dangerous man to marry, especially when you are called to trust him with your life. And why would a man withhold a good thing such Read more


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  • Let me now bury the dead

    There is a scream so loud it shatters my insides but it never had the chance to escape the vacuum of my heart. It may come about as whimpers but if you’d only see the wreck a silent mourning has caused, how the pieces spread out into the void, you would understand the magnitude of Read more


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  • The agony of the slog

    The year-long process of writing a paper includes: 🌿 I have reached a point where I no longer know if what I do makes sense. However, my believing friends and family convinced me that it did and helped me get out of my black hole. So here I am now at the other side of Read more


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  • When you’ve been prepared for something bigger

    In 2020, I explored how to produce podcast episodes and went through the learning phase of juggling content creation with pre- and post-production. My tasks include: topic ideation, writing the material, recording, audio editing, and promotion. The pandemic really squeezed the creatives out of us, and it felt that at that moment, I really wanted Read more


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