The more we get to know a person, the more we learn about their idiosyncrasies.
From the New Oxford American Dictionary:
id·i·o·syn·cra·sy | ˌidēəˈsiNGkrəsē |
noun (plural idiosyncrasies) (usually idiosyncrasies) a mode of behavior or way of thought peculiar to an individual: one of his little idiosyncrasies was always preferring to be in the car first.
And just because we want the people we deeply care about to act a certain way, we often find their quirks annoying, and we fight over these things and get mad at them. So we say, change that; it bugs me off!
I can remember how our Pastor told us many times during our marriage counseling that if it’s not a sin, let it be.
Often, we get hypercritical about minor things our lover or beloved do just because they act a certain way, and it ticks us off. But how about looking at it from a different perspective, where we see these things as something that makes them unique? And instead of zeroing in on these peculiarities and making a big deal out of it, why not focus on the qualities that attracted us to them in the first place?
From that moment when I learned how to treat idiosyncracies as something that makes our loved ones special, I started to see them in a new light. Someone unique like I am. And as much as I want to be accepted for my idiosyncracies, they deserve the same acceptance too.
Aren’t these idiosyncracies what makes us unique after all?
The more we learn to accept them, they eventually become a source of joy and laughter instead of frustration and annoyance.
jessa 