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Keeping up with everyone

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This is a rather impossible task, even if social media tells you otherwise. Because knowing someone better takes a lot of time and even effort to actually make that time possible.

Even if you insist, try to remember and count the people you mostly maintain communications with throughout the week. Narrow them down to the kind of people you share trust and obligation with. Are you surprised to find out that the number is not much?

Robin Dunbar, a British anthropologist, proposed in the 1990s that we can comfortably maintain 150 stable relationships. If you’ve never heard about this theory (yet), you can find more of it here and here.

Whether you find it true or not, what matters is that you keep on growing the relationships that matter to you. But such constraints should not limit you to meet new people and be a blessing to them. Also, do not make it an excuse to treat other people rudely just because they are out of your circle.